There is no transformation without facing and processing grief.
This is my conclusion after contemplating decades of my own continuous growth.
I didn’t know this until I faced the grief I had, several actually.
Grief happens when we experience a sense of loss, beyond just death: loss of health, relationship, normality, freedom, status, position, job, power, basically anything that you have, you can lose.
When you choose to transform yourself, you will go through a grieving phase, for whatever it is you choose to part ways with, including your old self.
By now you may realise that I bring up many “heavy” topics into the podcast, like shame, vulnerability, limiting beliefs, dysfunctional relationships, a feeling of inadequacy, achievement addictions, decluttering, letting go, intuition, etc.
These are building blocks, fundamental and important ones, for a healthy and fulfilling life; an UPLIFTED life.
We, Go-getters, are driven individuals who really wish to make a positive dent in the world and also in our lives. Yet, the topics above are our blind spots a lot of the time. Grief is another important one.
“I don’t have time to grief”; “I must be strong for my family”; “Suck it up and move on”; “Feeling takes so much energy and time”; “I hate crying”; “I can’t be sad when I am still here”; are just some self-talk we have when facing grief.
I said all these and more to myself in the past. I didn’t know what this habit did to me, to my body, to my emotion, to my spirit. Until the sudden passing of my Dad in 2012 became the straw that broke the camel’s back.
I was down on my knee feeling unsure how to proceed with my life. My inner body collapsed; my blood pressure went through the roof. That was the beginning of my relationship with understanding and integrating grief in my life.
All of you reading this deserve to have the life that you desire and to grow in the way that you wish.
For that, get to know grief and integrate that into your life. It will un-stuck you, your life and your loved ones.
In this newest episode, join my conversation with Karin Hagelin on what grief is, how this shows up in your life, what the costs are when you’re not facing it, how to do it and how to support others in grief.
Karin was the person who helped me processed mine in 2013.
She is a Life Crisis Coach based in Zurich, Switzerland, who helps people from many countries manage grief, loss and trauma; get relief from stress and anxiety; release unhealthy patterns of thought and behaviour; and heal relationships.
Enjoy this episode, take all in, and share it with everyone you know.
Because… we’re all meant to grow.
Love,
Astuti
Timestamp:
00:00 Welcome and introduction
10:15 What grief is, the symptoms, what is required to face grief, and how we got disconnected from an in-built process to face grief in our cultures.
13:10 What can trigger grief
19:40 How grief manifests in our body and our feelings.
23:12 What happens to our body when we grief.
26:45 Symptoms to know when to start grieving, when to get help and how to grief together with others.
34:10 How to support others who experience grief
40:33 Signs that we are well in processing grief
45:18 The costs of delaying or not processing grief
49:50 How to face grief. Emergency tool to overcome unexpected overpowering grief emotion.
55:55 Resources to use to support a grieving journey.